Frozen in Embarrassment

Sometimes at parties “Get to Know You” games are played.  I generally do not like these games.  The one I despise is when they go around a circle and have you tell your most embarrassing experience.  Really???  If I am going to tell you one thing about myself, why would it be something embarrassing?
I know embarrassing things can sometimes be funny in hindsight.  I suppose that is what game coordinators are going for.  There was once something embarrassing and funny that happened to me, and I told myself I needed to remember that so I had a story to tell.  I have racked my brain for years to remember what it was.  I don’t have a clue.  Embarrassing stuff happens all the time – mostly because I’m and idiot.  Case in point – this blog.
I am so embarrassed that I haven’t posted in so long that I am frozen – not in fear – but in embarrassment.  Today I finally told myself to get over it already!  So here I am.
I once heard a saying something to the effect of: Take the easy way out.  Just do it!  The point was that it is easier to just do something.  The longer you wait, the harder it gets because you get so worked up about it.  At first, there might be a real reason not to have done something, like not blogging because of being in charge of a quilt show and the kids being home for summer and mini vacations with the family.  At some point it stops being a reason and turns into an excuse. 
What do you do to break out of the “frozen” mode?  Is there a secret pill? 
P.S.  The picture has nothing to do with this post.  It is where I spent the 4th of July.  I should tell you more about it another day.


  1. Heather
    July 11, 2012 at 11:15 pm

    I recently took a quilting class where the teacher asked us to go around and introduce ourselves, give a little of our sewing background, and say one thing that nobody knows about you, or one secret, something like that. It was very hard to come up with something, and as one woman in the class said, “If I had something secret I wouldn’t tell you guys!” If was definitely a somewhat awkward way to start a quilting class and didn’t really break the ice.

    But anyways, when I get into ruts I just make myself a goal and say “you HAVE to do this”. For example, when I am at home a lot of times instead of quilting I’ll just end up on the couch watching tv, or goofing off on my computer. I just have to force myself to put it away and go do something small, like an hour of quilting. Once I finally start quilting it’s much easier to exceed my goal. So maybe if you just tell yourself that you must post once a week or something, it will be easier to do it even more often!

    Also for blogging I think it helps a lot of people to set aside a specific day/time, like Sunday evening say, to do your blog post, so it’s sort of a scheduled event. But of course, if it isn’t fun, don’t do it!

  2. StitchinByTheLake
    July 11, 2012 at 11:33 pm

    I refuse to play those games! I have no idea why anyone thinks they’re fun…they certainly aren’t for me. But I did love your post. 🙂 blessings, marlene

  3. Anonymous
    July 11, 2012 at 11:47 pm

    Welcome back. And it really hasn’t been that long since your last post. Thanks for sharing.

  4. Sheila
    July 11, 2012 at 11:51 pm

    I think you just did it, welcome back. i’ve missed you.

  5. Judy1522
    July 12, 2012 at 12:05 am

    I really dislike those kinds of things where you have to go around the room and tell everyone something about your self. The way I look at it the people that want to tell you about themselves will make sure to and those that don’t won’t and probably don’t want to. I thought you were just taking a rest from everything. I don’t have a blog myself but I have noticed that people seem to feel bad when they don’t post for awhile. I figure we all have busy lives and don’t always have time for everything. You should never feel bad about not posting after all you are the one living your life and know what you need to be doing that is important.

  6. Nancy, Near Philadelphia
    July 12, 2012 at 1:19 am

    Good to hear your voice again, and absolutely no need to be embarrassed. Blogging Without Obligation!!!!!

  7. Kate
    July 12, 2012 at 1:24 am

    What keeps me blogging regularly are the linky parties that I usually participate in. That way I always have a theme and at least something to post about (besides, it keeps me actually stitching too).

    Glad that you are back. I was thinking yesterday that you’d been a little scarce.

  8. Lesley
    July 12, 2012 at 1:46 am

    It’s always great to hear from you! I knw all about life getting busy…just keep it fun and things have a way of working out!

  9. Mindful quilter
    July 12, 2012 at 6:44 am

    Welcome back! I hate those ice breakers too. My tip for getting things done is to not think about it, just do it. At work I write up to do lists and make sure I do at least one of them per day.

  10. Wendy
    July 12, 2012 at 2:27 pm

    Bless you!! It’s your blog, if you don’t want to post … don’t post 🙂 It’s just nice to stop in and visit when you are here 🙂

  11. Sherryl
    July 12, 2012 at 4:55 pm

    Oh I’m so glad you posted again! I was beginning to worry that maybe you were trapped under something heavy…

  12. Colleen
    July 13, 2012 at 2:22 am

    The only time I actually enjoyed a “getting to know you” game was at work, when we had combined two teams who did not know each other well, and we were asked to say what we were doing 20 years ago. A couple were in diapers, but most of us were of an age where we had some interesting stories to tell. And, the stories led to further conversation down the road.

    Please don’t be embarrassed. I think that many of us bloggers have dry spells. The good thing about subscribing is that I don’t give up on a blog.

  13. Donna
    July 13, 2012 at 5:51 am

    Oh, my, I hate those games also. I have a voice issue, and when I’m put on the spot, it gets worse. Nice to see you back, but don’t worry about not doing it for a while. I’m about the worst when it comes to blogging consistently. I figure not many look at it anyway, so sometimes I just don’t bother.

  14. krislovesfabric
    July 13, 2012 at 12:18 pm

    Yay! you’re back, we missed you 🙂

  15. Sewing Sue
    July 13, 2012 at 6:19 pm

    My mom used to say only talk when you’ve got something to say… maybe the same goes for blogging. I don’t blog daily or even sometimes weekly. I don’t blog unless there’s something worthwhile to write about. It’s your blog, post when you want to and we’ll be here waiting to hear what you have to say! Welcome back.

  16. vickievanphd
    July 13, 2012 at 8:57 pm

    Yaaaa! Glad to hear from you 🙂 Sometimes life gets in the way of blogging. Sometimes you just don’t know what to say…I say just sit down and talk like you are telling your friends what is going on…because we are 🙂

  17. Beth
    July 15, 2012 at 12:38 am

    Good to hear from you! Don;t worry about the blogging, we all get busy and distracted and time flies by!

  18. Leslie can't stop quilting
    July 17, 2012 at 4:44 pm

    I am just happy you are okay….you are allowed to take time off!!

  19. Marianne
    July 18, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    I hate those so-called ice-breaking games! I do have an embarrassing story that is funny but no way would I tell it!

  20. Karen
    July 22, 2012 at 8:52 pm

    I have reasons for not getting to something, busy, work, chores, dinner, tired.
    What works for me is to make a list of chores. I have learned to get the less desired things done first, then it is suddenly easier and I feel lighter.
    Once I have crossed all the items off the list I have permission to go play.