What Doesn’t Kill You. . .

Makes you stronger. So the saying goes.
Is it true? If something doesn’t kill you, but it leaves you a paraplegic or in a coma, are you stronger? Recovering from the brink of death should make you stronger mentally knowing that you can handle more than you thought you could. . . theoretically.
Even if it does make you stronger, it doesn’t mean that the experience is one to be relished. It also doesn’t mean it isn’t extremely difficult during the experience and that you don’t wonder if you will survive.
Mid-May my 14 year old daughter had major corrective hip surgery. She now has 4 pins keeping her hip in place. I can’t believe what a common experience major surgery is and yet how traumatic. It has been two months and my daughter has just gotten clearance to start walking again. There were two parts that were scary for me as a mother.
The first worst part was right before the surgery someone was telling us about some of the possible complications. One of them was fatal bleeding. I hoped my daughter didn’t know what that meant. I felt like laughing because it was in the middle of a list that included many not so threatening conditions. Well, she could have numbness that lasts a while or we could cut a major artery and she could bleed to death.
The second worst part was that during the four day stay at the hospital my daughter had some reactions to the pain medication that scared me. It felt like she was two weeks old again. I worried constantly and didn’t even take a shower until the last day because I didn’t want to leave her.
I think the worst part for her has been being patient with sitting around waiting for the healing process to take place. She has tried to be good. The surgery went well, and she is healing as quickly as can be expected. This was one of the reasons that I was MIA for a while. Thank you for your patience.


  1. Nancy, Near Philadelphia
    July 19, 2013 at 1:21 pm

    You know, many times being the person who loves the patient is harder than being the patient. Especially if you are the mother, when all you want to do is make it better. So sorry you and she are going through this.

  2. Vroomans' Quilts
    July 19, 2013 at 1:51 pm

    Having gone some similar experience with my own kids – totally understand. We carried on.

  3. Sandie @ crazy'boutquilts
    July 19, 2013 at 3:49 pm

    Oh my gosh, it is the scariest thing in the world to watch your child go through all your DD has been through! I wouldn’t have left the room for a minute either. Sending lots of warm thoughts for patience and healing!

  4. Nita
    July 19, 2013 at 4:11 pm

    I think you need a great big squeezy-rocking-side-to-side-with-a-deep-slow-breath hug from another mum – ((((((HUG))))))

  5. Lesley
    July 19, 2013 at 8:17 pm

    Sending prayers, positive thoughts, and a few virtual hugs for you both!

  6. Ginny
    July 19, 2013 at 9:21 pm

    Wow, sending warm wishes your way!

  7. BillieBee (billiemick)
    July 19, 2013 at 10:38 pm

    This sounds so difficult for a Mom and a 14 year old….wow….Many prayers from Texas.

  8. Sheila
    July 19, 2013 at 10:56 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear about your daughter. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  9. StitchinByTheLake
    July 20, 2013 at 10:17 pm

    I remember when my first grandson was being born – I wanted to take my daughter’s place and take away her pain. No matter their age our children are our children and when they hurt, we hurt. My prayers for quick healing for her and peace for you. blessings, marlene

  10. Krista @ Sewwhatscooking.com
    July 20, 2013 at 11:44 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear about your daughter. My 10 year old nephew has Leggs Perthes and has a major surgery coming up and will have a second to do the other leg/hip once he recovers from the first. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

  11. Shannon
    July 21, 2013 at 2:18 am

    Wow, I am so sorry that you and your daughter had to go through that. As a mom I can understand how hard it must have been to watch her go through that. Not know what was going to happen. And being helpless to make it all just go away. I hope you both will keep strong!! I am sending good vibes, hugs, and prayers to you!!

  12. Jeanenne Nielsen
    July 21, 2013 at 5:32 am

    It was great working with you today. I am glad I got to meet you and buy your book. Thanks for all your help. Keep up the great work . You should come to Logan and teach a class. My email is jeanenne@ digis .net.