What Doesn’t Kill You. . .
Makes you stronger. So the saying goes.
Is it true? If something doesn’t kill you, but it leaves you a paraplegic or in a coma, are you stronger? Recovering from the brink of death should make you stronger mentally knowing that you can handle more than you thought you could. . . theoretically.
Even if it does make you stronger, it doesn’t mean that the experience is one to be relished. It also doesn’t mean it isn’t extremely difficult during the experience and that you don’t wonder if you will survive.
Mid-May my 14 year old daughter had major corrective hip surgery. She now has 4 pins keeping her hip in place. I can’t believe what a common experience major surgery is and yet how traumatic. It has been two months and my daughter has just gotten clearance to start walking again. There were two parts that were scary for me as a mother.
The first worst part was right before the surgery someone was telling us about some of the possible complications. One of them was fatal bleeding. I hoped my daughter didn’t know what that meant. I felt like laughing because it was in the middle of a list that included many not so threatening conditions. Well, she could have numbness that lasts a while or we could cut a major artery and she could bleed to death.
The second worst part was that during the four day stay at the hospital my daughter had some reactions to the pain medication that scared me. It felt like she was two weeks old again. I worried constantly and didn’t even take a shower until the last day because I didn’t want to leave her.
I think the worst part for her has been being patient with sitting around waiting for the healing process to take place. She has tried to be good. The surgery went well, and she is healing as quickly as can be expected. This was one of the reasons that I was MIA for a while. Thank you for your patience.